crazy little thing called LOVE

Love...
One of the most complicated mysteries of life. People say that it's a natural phenomena and others would say that it can be scientifically explained. But can love really be propitious? Or is it just another one of the greatest disappointments made to destruct one's pride or ego?

Here's the common scenario:

Two people meet up > They can flirt > They can even have sex > Become friends > Spend some time seeing each other > Relationship getting deeper > Finally realizing they're falling in love with each other > Commitment/Non-commitment > Other one cheats/leaves > The other becomes miserable > He/She decides to move on and eventually the cycle will start all over again...

Being in love is like entertaining hurts and disappointments. It's about being ready to risk everything for that single person to whom you could share that thing they called "genuine happiness". Getting hurt is just a part of it, but sometimes you'll realize that part of being happy is getting hurt. I know it's hard to understand because it's too intricate...too complex. But I'm sure to those people who have fallen in love and still falling in love knows how I feel right now.

I may be young to discuss all this love talks but I know to myself that I've experienced enough to define love but I'm still struggling to unravel love's true mystery and I could only hope that one day I will be victorious.

Haven't you noticed? People can get hurt and still they choose to fall in love over and over again. This is because of one definite reason: for them to be happy. But soon you'll realize that loving isn't just about your personal happiness...it'll always be the happiness of you both...and to some, it'll be the happiness of the one you love alone.

It's good to be in love...but do you know the greatest feeling in the world? Let me tell you....

"The greatest feeling in the world is to love and be loved in return..."

It's Just A Matter Of Growing Up.

I've had my share of ups and downs - been there, done that. I made mistakes. All people do. But the important thing is to learn from those mistakes and know how to stand up again. Paulo Coelho was right. I learned that you have to take risks, otherwise, you wouldn't understand the meaning of life fully. Though on the other hand, taking risks is not the only way to do it. You need to set goals, you need to have a gameplan. Looking back, I realized how childlike, how immature and how irresponsible I was. How overly eager to try out things, how impatient I was to get things done, and most of all, HOW MUCH TIME I'VE WASTED ON NONSENSICAL THINGS, AND MISSING OUT ON EVERY GREAT OPPORTUNITY THAT CAME MY WAY.


So I learned...


...that above all, God and faith in Him is the most important.
...my age has nothing to do with how I should think and behave.
...TRUST IS THE KEY TO A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP.
...everything takes time. Patience is a virtue.
...you have to see everything as a blessing. And be thankful for it.
...people come and go, it will hurt you deeply, but on the bright side you'll know who's real and who's not.
...that no matter how dysfunctional your FAMILY is, they would always be worth your love.
...if I had not took this one great risk, I would never be this happy. With all the help of prayers, guidance, and soul-searching, I finally came to the conclusion that if I let this pass - I will be left with a thousand what-ifs and what-could-have-beens. I know my faith in God and the goodness of people will help me all throughout this journey. In the end, in case it wouldn't be a happy ending, it would be nice to know that I got what I've always wanted - and more.


Live. Laugh. Love. Pray. Forget the pain, never hold grudges, hold on for your own happy ever after.

BOB ONG'S QUOTABLE QUOTES

I stumbled upon some of the messages of Bob Ong in the net. Here you go.


“Kung hindi mo mahal ang isang tao, wag ka nang magpakita ng motibo para mahalin ka nya..”

“Huwag mong bitawan ang bagay na hindi mo kayang makitang hawak ng iba.”

“Huwag mong hawakan kung alam mong bibitawan mo lang.”

“Huwag na huwag ka hahawak kapag alam mong may hawak ka na.”

“Parang elevator lang yan eh, bakit mo pagsisiksikan ung sarili mo kung walang pwesto para sayo. Eh meron naman hagdan, ayaw mo lang pansinin.”- Hahaha Sabi naman ni Juan tamad, “Babalik at babalik parin ang elevator, kaya mas maganda na maghintay ka nalang”

“Kung maghihintay ka nang lalandi sayo, walang mangyayari sa buhay mo.. Dapat lumandi ka din.”

“Pag may mahal ka at ayaw sayo, hayaan mo. Malay mo sa mga susunod na araw ayaw mo na din sa kanya, naunahan ka lang.”

“Hiwalayan na kung di ka na masaya. Walang gamot sa tanga kundi pagkukusa.”

“Pag hindi ka mahal ng mahal mo wag ka magreklamo. Kasi may mga tao rin na di mo mahal pero mahal ka.. Kaya quits lang.”

“Kung dalawa ang mahal mo, piliin mo yung pangalawa. Kasi hindi ka naman magmamahal ng iba kung mahal mo talaga yung una.”

“Hindi porke’t madalas mong ka-chat, kausap sa telepono, kasama sa mga lakad o ka-text ng wantusawa eh may gusto sayo at magkakatuluyan kayo. Meron lang talagang mga taong sadyang friendly, sweet, flirt, malandi, pa-fall o paasa.” -

“Huwag magmadali sa babae o lalaki. Tatlo, lima, sampung taon, mag-iiba ang pamantayan mo at maiisip mong hindi pala tamang pumili ng kapareha dahil lang maganda o nakakalibog ito. Totong mas mahalaga ang kalooban ng tao higit sa anuman. Sa paglipas ng panahon, maging ang mga crush ng bayan nagmumukha ding pandesal, maniwala ka.”
“Minsan kahit ikaw ang nakaschedule, kailangan mo pa rin maghintay, kasi hindi ikaw ang priority.”

“Mahirap pumapel sa buhay ng tao. Lalo na kung hindi ikaw yung bida sa script na pinili nya.”

“Alam mo ba kung gaano kalayo ang pagitan ng dalawang tao pag nagtalikuran na sila? Kailangan mong libutin ang buong mundo para lang makaharap ulit ang taong tinalikuran mo.”

“Mas mabuting mabigo sa paggawa ng isang bagay kesa magtagumpay sa paggawa ng wala.”

“Hindi lahat ng kaya mong intindihin ay katotohan, at hindi lahat ng hindi mo kayang intindihin ay kasinungalingan”

“Ang pag-ibig parang imburnal…nakakatakot mahulog…at kapag nahulog ka, it’s either by accident or talagang tanga ka..”

Finding your LIFE PARTNER.

I was checking out my best buddy Rachel's Multiply account when I found this article she posted on her blog.

GOLDEN RULES for finding your LIFE PARTNER.

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr. /Miss. Right!

If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: "We're in love"; I believe this is the...1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound "not politically correct", there's aprofound truth here.

Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: "You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone"; You need a lot more!!!

Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

Question #1: Do we share a common life purpose?

Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.

Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2) you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart.
To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life!

Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.

Question #2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust - i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.

Question #3: Is he/she a mensch?

A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right” so ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

Question #4: How does he/she treat other people?

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.

Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self- absorbed?
To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly will eventually treat you poorly as well.

Question #5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse". If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.

In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.

Another perspective. ..

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance... It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you.

Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones always have drama or don't really understand, know, or appreciate you?

The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye" Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults isn’t really that important.

Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life" you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. SOME GETAWAY TIME WITHOUT BUSINESS OR CHILDREN
7. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
8. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
9. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
10. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT

If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
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My friend Rache finally found her life partner, after a long search. And with what she's been through, I am so happy for her.

I am only 20. Not yet the suitable age for marriage, but as with most women out there, of course I am already searching for THE ONE. Before, I used to go for cute guys, those that are super fun to be with, has decency, and I have this list of requirements that I now realize doesn't give much importance in a relationship.

Maybe, I've really grown up. Because now, I realize, being in love is not the only key in entering a relationship. A person has to weigh things, pros and cons, compromise, and have a really deep understanding of what he or she is entering. There would be risks. We have to face the reality that THERE WOULD ALWAYS BE UPS AND DOWNS IN A RELATIONSHIP. Being happily in love alone does not ensure a long one.

So thanks Rache for this article. It made me happy. Who knows, maybe - when everything is settled, and I pray to God that it would be - the person I'm currently with would turn out to be my life partner. Ü

What is the Best Time to Resign?

I find this link interesting if you really would like to resign from your current job.  If you feel that it's time for you to go. Read this stuff first in order for you to know what to do next. http://www.asktheheadhunter.com/haresign.htm

Hi all! I went to Trinoma to check what's the best movie to watch, instead of buying tickets i saw this gigantic replica of a blue whale. It says its a 2 month old calf. Wow isn't it amazing? I grabbed my cellphone and start taking some pictures for me to post on my site.